Do you sometimes feel that others close to you -your family, your close friends, your church -just don’t understand your grief?

In my ministry to widows, I’ve heard heartbreaking stories of widows feeling ostracized for bringing up their loss; “not getting over it”; or being depressed at times. When in reality unless someone has experienced the loss of a spouse, they have no idea what it’s like to not only deal with the anguish of losing someone you loved so dearly, but also the devastation of a life that’s totally different than it was before.

There is no timeline for grief, nor is there a handy checklist of steps to to accomplish. Every grief journey is different based on circumstances, culture, personalities, and many other factors.

One period of time you may be doing well…then a grief trigger sets you back: a significant date on the calendar, a song on the radio, a food being served, or an event where their presence is sorely missed. Any number of instances, big or small, can affect us on so many levels.

Your grief journey is personal and you don’t need to justify your actions and emotions.

But I urge you to not isolate yourself! Seek out others who will understand and support you. Find another widow you can talk with. I have personally witnessed the healing effects of widows sharing with one another and realizing they are not alone! If your circumstances are that you have no one, please reach out to me by using the contact information from this website.

But above all, there is One who understands your grief. The Bible tells us Our Lord is close to the broken-hearted and He never leaves or forsake us. May God give you peace as you deal with your widow’s walk.